As the blogosphere struggles to come to grips with the reality of cyberbullying - threats and intimidation, aimed most often at women bloggers - various proposals for codes of conduct have surfaced. But can there be a code? What type of conversation would such a code try to create? Is civil conversation an elitist ideal or the bedrock of all discourse? Is there room and even a role for uncivil discourse? What does our reaction to cyberbullying tell us about who we are and how we connect through talk?